Hello Friends,
This question hits a painful, but common human nerve - betrayal.
Dear Deb,
I experienced infidelity in my marriage last year. So far I’ve stayed but I just don’t know if it’s going to be OK in the long run between my husband and me. He doesn’t want to have sex anymore but I just keep hoping it might come back. What is your REAL opinion of relationships after an affair. Do you think relationships can truly recover after there has been lies and betrayal about sex with another person?
Hello,
My heart goes out to you for your losses.
A major betrayal, like an extra-marital affair, is rather like a death has occurred. The death of trust, the death of promises made, the end of an era forever. Whether your relationship continues or doesn’t survive, your previous relationship has gone forever and needs grieving. If you continue together, it will be in a new relationship.
Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken, but you can still see the crack in that person's reflection.
Lady Gaga
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